Sad To Be Back 4 Years After The Bust

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It's Sunday morning and WAW was just packing up some stuff for her move out on December 1st. I stayed in our bedroom doing other things while she cleaned out drawers etc. When I moved some of my stuff to a just emptied drawer, she said "you could wait until I move". I removed a few things that I never liked in the room to make it my own space. WAW didn't like that.

Were you being efficient (empty drawer, been needing one) or punitive (fine, you empty the drawer, I'll put MY stuff in there. Hrumph!)?

but when I told WAW that I don't want her in the house anytime I am around, don't want her to come over and clean the house and make dinner on Sundays, she really got upset.

Maybe a better point to ponder aloud with her is WHY she would want to clean the house to begin with???? Just tell her you can handle it.

Then I told her I was definitely not taking her to my company XMAS party and that I did not want to stay in the same room as her on vacation. She got even more angry. She even said "I want to hit you now".

Did she ask to go to your xmas party? Or was this more of you punishing? Again, a point to ponder is why she would want to go to your party or your vacation. Are y'all divorcing or what???

She said something like "you are pushing us to divorce". Later I said, "if I thought you had any intention of some day reconciling, I may be a little different, but I don't want to go through all the hurt again", so I need to do this like removing a band aid and get it over and move on.

So she's right? You are pushing toward D? I just have trouble sorting out what you are doing and WHY? Your...boundaries...seem more like one-upmanship to me. You seem like a guy who is done fighting for your M but not done fighting with your W.

It will be tough when deep inside all I really want is to have her here with me. I am at the most critical stage for my sanity and well being and need to be stronger than I have at any point see I returned here 3 months ago.

Try smarter. Strong is for you. Smart is for your M.

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