He wants me to agree to share house forever

[Heather]

We had our first councilling session on Friday, after he told me he was done working on the relationship, and that he would never be "emotionally or physically" intimate with me ever again. Ostensibly, we are in councilling to negotiate our co-parenting as we move forward. I have repeatedly made it clear that I am willing to work on the relationship

He is adamant that he does not want to be with me. His reasons were that I have too many expectations, and that I have emotional episodes. The example he gave of an emotional episode was when I confronted him about breaking a promise, and told him that I feel sad and angry when I see him breaking promises, and that if he makes commitments and then does not keep them then I don't think I can trust him. He sees this sort of thing as unacceptable and not "accepting him for who he is". I also have an expectation that we will have sex and occasionally spend one-on-one time with each other.

He wants me to agree to live in the same house with him, and accept that the marriage is over. He tells me that if I don't agree to this arrangement then I have to "take responsibility for breaking up the family".

He admits that he often makes promises and commitments when he doesn't really mean it. He also admits that he hasn't asked me for what he needs. He asked me for space six months ago, now he is telling me that he resents the fact that I go out more than he does. He proposed that we not eat dinner together as a family anymore, and then said in councilling that he resented it when I agreed to that proposal without a fight.

I really don't know how to proceed here. I do NOT want to agree to this co-living plan if he doesn't want to sort out the problems in our marriage and with our communication. I DO want to divorce bust, if possible, but how can I best do that?

I'm very confused.