Then I said, that what ever happened, things would have to be very different. It's not acceptable to me for you to put the kids in the middle by talking about me to D17, or having the kids move your stuff out of the room. She protested, and I said D17 told me she told you it wasn't cool.
So, you told her it wasn't acceptable to put your daughter in the middle, by telling her that your daughter told you that it wasn't cool? (thereby putting her in the middle) ????
Other than pointing that out, Awoken, I'm in complete agreement with what Karen posted. Your wife seems to be calling all the shots here, which is NEVER a healthy balance of power in a relationship, but considering all of her serious issues right now, is triply troubling to me. When my wife threatened me with divorce for the one-too-many'th time, I went ahead and filed myself, first, which dramatically changed the dynamic.
