F!@#$% GNOSIS!!! LOL! It was like reading something I would post but someone else did it. LOL! Too funny!!!
BTM I hope you seriously read everything GNOSIS has taken the time to post for you here about a dozen dozen times until you get it in your head.
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...During that conversation this morning, she again alluded to the fact that to her moving out doesn't mean the marriage is over. Maybe I should not have said the following, but I did. I said "if I knew that you wanted to work towards reconciliation, it would be different for me - but you won't be clear about it".
Maybe the next time she brings this up, you can "ALLUDE" to her that her moving out means that the marriage is over to you. If she valued it, she wouldn't be moving out on you & the marriage - she is sending a clear message but it's wrapped up in her WAS script.
"No BTM, the marriage isn't over, I'm just moving to a new place without you because it's healthy for the marriage for me to have my own space that you weren't supposed to know about just in case I want to have over some male companions which will also help me realize my marriage to you isn't over..."
My response to her when she said that BS would have been, "why do you assume I'm going to wait for you while you get your act together?! Is my life less valuable than yours? While you have fun with whoever at your new singles pad I should wait home like a big dummy hoping you'll come back one day? Sorry to burst your bubble, I'm not that big dummy and I consider this marriage over when you've walked out that door, I'm not waiting for you, My life is TOO VALUABLE to waste."
And as for using up those empty drawers and her telling you to wait until she's moved out... UMMMM.... why? If they're empty and she has taken her stuff out of them, I'm assuming they're available? She's testing you, all of these things she does are tests, seriously at this point, you can consider every second of interaction with her to be a test to see if you're a weak boy or a STRONG MAN. Put stuff in those empty drawers, if she makes noise about it, just tell her, "Look you emptied them, I'm assuming empty drawers are then available to be used for something other than storing dust, why should I wait till you move out to use them?" Let her come up with reasons why you should wait to use those empty drawers, she can justify that excuse, you don't have to come up with excuses to use an empty drawer - do you see the logic in that? She made you question using an empty drawer and that doesn't make sense, you should question why the drawer should remain empty. "Why should it be empty - that doesn't make any sense?" and give her a weird look like she's clueless, shake your head as in she doesn't make any sense.
Well "indy" or should i say "BTM", it only took you 48 pages of your thread to finally start taking the advice we gave you, that book must have clinched it for you.
Thank GOD for small favors, masculinity looks good on you bro, I hope you wear it for the rest of your life, The women in your life will appreciate it ;-)
