Oh, sorry, Puppy Dog Tails, I haven't read this whole thread so my comment might be out of context. I would not expect a coworker to know the things you list about someone at the workplace. You seem to be talking only about a spouse having an affair at the workplace.
And maybe I'm out of context again, but in that case I think the issue is between you and your spouse, regardless of the policy at the workplace. But that's just my personal opinion, and if somebody can get their spouse back by first blowing up the workplace situation, then who am I to disagree?
