What's the purse like? This girl would enjoy to know.
"I think if I didnt feel some is missing, dating or thoughts of a different future wouldnt come to mind. I sound like a WA? Fine with me. At one point it doenst matter what it is called. I am thinking of myself for a change. Which feels good." K
No, it doesn't matter what it's called & everyone here is definitely wanting you to feel good in every way. Especially after the last few years of this stuff!
I guess what I'm trying to say, is that adding someone to the mix complicates things. It also probably is similar to attempting counseling with a spouse who's actively in an affair.
And, like I said, this probably sounds a heck of a lot like do as I say, not what I do. Maybe it is!
Something tells me, after the events of an hour ago, that I'm going to be providing an example of the danger of really getting involved with someone b/f you truly, truly know it's finished w/your H.
I am absolutely for you doing & thinking of yourself now. I also know you have a very strong appeal & it would be easy for someone to fall hard for you. So, try not to be so charming...
Sorry about the lack of desire. You know where I stand on that issue...it does not make any sense to me. But then again I am not psychotherapeutically (I just made that up) inclined.
Yes, the purse is MUCH better than the Ipod. Too expensive if you ask me but hey..., I cant complain about that, right!!? He made a big effort. He bought something he knows I LOVE and not something I need. He had to go downtwon, took a lady friend with him for advice. She suggested another place but he said he wanted to go there because of the quality or something similar.
Last night he said he feels things are goingis it that he finds difficult. He said facing me, my feelings, the way I am cautious and careful, he says he sees my feelings on my face all the time. I told him I have big questionmark lack of sexual desire. Unfortunately he asked something I didnt get and I got upset and ended the conversation before I got any answers. But he seemed to "know" it is an issue. Adn he was surprised when I said I feel like I am ready to start my sexual life now. Ready and willing and mature. That I feel apsolutely great and sensual and that lack of sex alone is a dealbreaker for me.
I should have acted differently and maybe gotten some insight from him. Instead I was upset and defensive and ruined the convo I started. K
You can't pave the way for him. He is going to have to pursue you. It's OK that you ruined the conversation you started. it actually makes your point. You are not sitting around waiting for him. You are not taking every little thing he gives you and neatly putting the pieces together. Things are a mess! And he has to clean it up! He's capable. Sit back and watch and wait. See what he does.
I'm way to hard on them.