thanks, Irma. keep praying---we're having a few struggles currently.

so--any opinions here? when is it "safe" to open one's heart to vulnerability again after having been the LBS (and having kicked the WAH to the curb, where he rightly belongs)?

do we subscribe to "conventional wisdom" or do we begin to trust our own wisdom (which may well have led us down the wrong paths previously)? and yes, I think it IS different after a certain age--not because of desperation, but because of life experience and self-understanding.


M60
H52
D20
M14 yrs
OW-old gf from 1986
bomb-5/18/08
H filed for D-9/10/08
D final 4/24/09
xH remarried (not OW) 2012