Long Journey .......... advice please

[Sanderika]

Hi Cas,

I see that "something" is different, too.

Actually "something" and "nothing" at the same time.

Something: Your H is hanging about, being attentive, considerate and caring with both you, D and S. No recent R or D talk. Everytime he helps D or S it is a nice gesture towards you. Everytime he hangs about your house to see D or S he is also hanging to see you!!!!

Nothing: Your H is still with OW, status quo on that front. No R or D talk for several weeks. H appears to still be in limboland about Cas, marriage, the kids, his wants, OW, living life semi alone.

My H does what yours does, when he comes over he lingers about.
It's like he doesn't want to leave. He even hangs when the convo is exhausted for the most part. I have often wondered the very same, why? Is he hanging to be invited to do something? Is he hanging to think up more to talk about so he can stay longer? Is he hanging to check out the surroundings to see what's new and changed? Does he want to have a R talk, then chickens out? I so wish the questions had answers, arghhh!!!

Last week my H called me Sunday, Monday, Wednesday, Thursday.
Over 4 hours of chatting about everything under the sun except us and the marriage. Every convo was positive and friendly and from what I can see he let his guard down and gave me a glimpse into his daily goings ons which is nothing really new except he seems to share things I wouldn't if I had filed for a D from my wife, i.e. money, schedules, contacts, etc.... On Thursday, he called here and I was out with a friend for the evening. He spoke to S who told him: "I don't know where she is but she is out with a friend" Well and hour plus later H was calling me on my cell (I didn't answer) and the message was: "Hi, just wondering what you are up to, when you get this message...call me". I returned the call but not til very late, I sounded all upbeat and perky and started like: "Hey, how are you, you asked me to call, what's up?" Again, I wish I had answers. My guess on my side here....H is setting me up only to postpone for #5 in court. I am becoming a huge skeptic. Can't help it. I think my "trust factor" has taken a huge plunge south!!!!!!!! With very good reason.

(((((Cas))))) keep doing what you are doing. You have definitely gotten your H's attention again. I say keep it up, let's see what his next move is.....The wheels are definitely turning in his head!!!!

Take care, have a great week ahead.....

Sanderika