Is this the end of my marriage?

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Just a dumb question here. How can you prove, beyond your own speculation, that someone is having an affair? Don't you have to be in the motel room with them to see them actually having sex? I can't imagine but that I'd be extremely reluctant to report that someone was having an affair, because all I could say is that "it looked like it", not that it is a fact. And you could be made a fool of.

Oh please. "Proponderance of the evidence," same as anything else.

- hundreds of text messages between the two individuals
- content of text messages ("I love you"; "you really do it for me like no one else ever has"; "last nite was incredible" -- those are all pretty good indications);
- a spouse's car parked in the OM's driveway for hours, when he/she said she was going to the bookstore;
- a spouse's car leaves their place of employment, where OM also works, they each take separate routes to go to a department store parking lot, where they both get into ONE ;car, and drive to OM's house where they remain for two hours;
- soiled underwear left stuffed in the bottom of the dirty clothes hamper;
- voice recordings of the two of them having sex, and making plans for their next rendezvous, including what lies to tell the OW's husband so that she can get away;
- computer keylogger keystrokes which spell out "older woman/younger man" "attracting younger men" "sexual positions", etc.;
- sudden change in appearance (new haircolor/style, new way of dressing, etc.);
- sudden change in musical tastes;
- sudden change in TV viewing habits, from hours and hours (even when reading), to ZERO.
- sudden change in religious conviction
- "ILYBINILWY" speech

Those are just a few, taken from a case with which I'm pretty familar. ALL of them are very much "script," and are common to many -- if not most -- affairs.

Those that claim to "not have enough proof" usually aren't looking hard enough, or are ignoring the proof that's staring them in the face.

Puppy

P.S. No one's probably picked up on the face that your wife and you are not having sex, because (I assume) there is no other party vested with interest in the situation.