when you spend 30-40 hours a week on a hobby in addition to having a full-time job I think that is what I would define as a dry-drunk or addictive personality.Wow! Gotcha. That kind of excessiveness, compulsiveness is masking something. My X told me his job and hobbies were his 1st and 2nd priorities, than me and the kids. I should have taken that a serious red flag, but didn't. And I'll bet you didn't take it that seriously because you had no idea to what extremes he took those priorities to.I didn't invent the term and certainly don't mean to insult with that term. I do think it's a serious problem, and one that people would be wise to get counseling/treatment for--whatever works. My point was that it is used as an insult within the 12-step community; certainly not that you meant to insult.
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"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
