DR will tell you to just wait out the OW by not discussing it and being the better option. While I agree with the second part, the first part just allows cake eating and I don't agree with that. For me, the strong stance of creating and enforcing boundaries is what worked. When I was just being nice and ignoring the elephant in the room it ruined my self esteem and allowed BF to continue his affair unemcumbered.
I bring this up again because I think you may be confused after reading the whole book. Just know that one of the basic ideas of DB is doing what works. You already have experience in what works for you and your H, don't ignore that just because the book says so.
Pearl, there is no way I could wait out the OW. To me, it would feel like I condone his behavior/actions if I waited. I am all for exposure.
My problem now, is getting the details on what is actually happening. Still have not uncovered much... did search the email address in FB and her profile came up but did not give many details. Looks like its her and her DD (maybe about 7 yrs old). Relationship status was "its complicated". And I know she is looking for a new place to live.
Just wish H did not have his cell attached to his hip. He had it in his pj bottom pocket last night while he slept on the couch. His wallet was out this afternoon but nothing came out of that search. And there is no way I could figure out his hotmail email password. I guess I just have to wait for my break.
