WAW wants to get togeather?

[wifeleft2009]

BR THANKS! yeah I had a good day... got my check and it was better than its been since this whole thing started and to top that off i got my vacation check which was what i used to take home last summer

for some reason everyone at work was a bit down and that sucks when I was so happy all day.. oh well there loss

then i got a call from a place i send my resume to and i pretty much could have the job but since i have the kids I wont beable to take the job since working weekends is a very big deal to them i left the door open though so im going to see what i can do for having the kids watched on weekends

[bluerain]

Hi WL, Sorry about the job. Im glad that you didnt totally rule it out. You never know how things are going to work out! I got a letter recently from a job I applied for and they assured me that their decision was not an easy one... like that matters to me? As if me knowing that they had a tough time deciding that I wasnt good enough would make me feel better?! Ugh. I hate this work searching!

Hows everything else?

[wifeleft2009]

I figured i should check in again... everything is still well a mess!

W still wont get a job so I am still paying for everything myself..
The inlaws are really starting to become more of a pain than anything (MIL keeps saying W is so much better but yet tells me all these things W says that are all lies) and it just makes me so mad. I told MIL W sounds worse
I talked to the detective that is going after W and i guess W has been at her parents house but refuses to answer the door. and MIL is getting pissy with the detective. he told me they have a meeting tuesday if she does not show he will issue a WARR. and bring her in.

Im so fustrated lately... none of the W actions make any sense yet alone how I can keep paying for everything myself. oh and MIL says i need to stop living out of my means (WTF? only thing I have that is not needed is my internet,tv and phone. which I already have scheduled it to be changed to a complete base option) I gave up talking to the inlaws its just more stress than i need. not to mention the little things are getting to me like MIL lost D8 coat at her house and keeps saying I never sent it with her.... it was cold out i made all 3 wear coats!


oh and the collections are getting worse now... i have her parents address and phone numbers on hand as of today. IDK they can take those calls now its not my problem they raised her

[bluerain]

Boy, they arent doing themselves any favors being nasty to the detectives! Hes going to make it personal! Honestly, I kind of hope that the warrant is issued!

Also, if you have high speed internet you can watch almost all of the popular shows online for free, so you dont even need cable much anymore!

You can write the collection agencies and tell them to stop contacting you. They have to, I have heard that you can tell them to stop calling you, but Im not sure if its as binding as something in writing.

Document all of this, it could be useful in court. Im sorry that your getting frustrated. Im totally confident that things will get better.

[wifeleft2009]

yeah now one of the collections is for the daycare when she had just my son. and even though it was her part to pay per court.. i now owe because im his parent and i am responciable for any debt. this is so dumb makes me wonder why i have a lawyer

[bluerain]

Hi WL. You know you could look at it as you are being the more responsible party and it will look good in court. Maybe go ahead and pay that one. If its going to effect your credit, take care of it, you might need to have good credit after all of this is said and done.

I think that this one fits in with you taking care of YOU.

Other than that, how are you doing?

[wifeleft2009]

I guess I should check in again.. W totaled the van a few weeks ago she rearended a guy with a trailer.

Im starting a new job now close to home. I guess thats about it for anything new

W still refuses to find a job and claims she is mentally unable to work. I guess from what I was told by MIL W still hates me WTF did i ever do to her other than being nice and worked on the M ?? oh well big loss there right?

the kids dont have any respect for W at all I guess they think its funny when she tries punish them. I try to tell the kids that im sure mommy had a good reason for there time outs and such but I guess D8 told W she was yukky so she got a time out. (I had to walk out of the room on that one) in general I guess they think W is a big joke. they saw everything and now she lives at her parents no car no job nothing and "grand ma wont let mommy drive there car because she might crash it"
LOL


still waiting for her to get arrested but im told this takes along time.

Ive stopped talking to MIL and only talk to BIL and W through e-mail. BIL was saying W was pissed I cancelled the health insurance and was trying to say I had to by court order and then she wanted a policy number for the auto insurance which she knew she was no longer on due to the letter from the insurance company saying the policy was unrenewable because they dont insure cars in seperat house holds and she claimed she had her own. (funny because it was not court ordered not to mention I cant afford it..)
I told BIL that it was a divorce not a hand out, I held W hand for the whole time we were togeather and she wanted to be on her own so now she is with the exception she lives with her mom and dad.
he said he was sorry he was pissed he is in the middle and he understood and agreed.

cant wait to see what she tries to pull on the court date for the final divorce hearing.. at least I saved every text and e-mail since she left

[bluerain]

That is too bad that they feel that way about their mom, but I suppose that its more realistic to say that its too bad that shes made such bad decisions to make her kids feel that way about her!

I think that it was probably pretty smart for you to cut off communication with the IL's for now at least. And email is a pretty non threatening way to talk to W for now.

When is your final hearing? Sounds like you are nice and detached, how are you doing?

[wifeleft2009]

final court date for the divorce is dec 9th.
Im pretty well detached for the most part.. I still have issues at times.. the other day I had a rough day, some songs and things do that I guess... Her e-mails sometimes get to me but Ive been better at not responding to certain things she says or asks about. (I usually just try and focus on how much of a looser she is throwing litterally every good thing away and I can smile a bit knowing it will sink in one day prob years from now but one day it will)

I just talk about what I know will just put me into yelling at her. I figure its best for me and im sure it tells her I dont give a darn about her comments.


how are you doing? last i saw you were doing great

[bluerain]

Oh, I know what your saying! Not even an hour ago I read through a jewelry store mailer and got all sad when I looked at the wedding jewelry! How silly. Im sure that it will sink in a lot sooner than a few years! Dont yell at her though, dont let her make you lose it! If you feel yourself getting close, leave the situation. Hang up, leave, whatever it takes. Even if you are going to get a D, you can still do well for yourself by continuing to do the right thing and take the high road!

Take comfort in the knowledge that her choices will very likely make her miserable.

You need to follow the WAS script now.

Im doing good, cold, but good, thanks!