Lease is signed.Good Checking account opened .Good. Credit card approved.Good. And I'm getting scared .Normal. Shake it off . You can do it. Great plan, logistics, support and conviction. H is crabby and irritable, and I'm not sure if it's his usual "I didn't sleep well all week and feel like I'm catching a cold" or if he's on to me. Who cares? Don't make assumptions. I feel paranoid. You're not. You are understandably anxious. Breeeathe. You've got all bases covered (though I still think Uncle and Cousin should be nearby. Screw H's safety. Have them there in case your safety becomes an issue. Then let 'em go at him). Report in to us as soon as it's done, okay?
Last edited by Gardener; 11/21/0907:44 PM.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
I calmed down as the day went on. We had cake and ice cream and presents for S's bday today before he went to work, then I watched the HS play tonight (D is on stage crew and her bf is one of the actors.) H didn't go since he was feeling too tired, as usual. The kids are more surprised if he does show up.
I think you guys are right- I don't think he's on to me yet. He seemed to relax a little as the day went on, so I think this morning's crabbiness was just his usual routine- I was just so nervous and made it out to be more than it was. I do wish he would get out of the house for a while so I could have some alone time and get some more stuff organized!
SB, Just been lurking on your thread, but hey, I'm in NE OH also. I agree with all the advise you've been getting, but I did want to say one thing.
Your kids are old enough that no court will stand in the way of who they want to stay with. Your S is 19. He's an adult in every way. Your D is 17. In a previous marriage of mine, the courts said when my S, who was young at the time, reached 12 or 13 yr's old, that HE could decide who he wanted to live with and as long as there was no child abuse, etc, that the courts would listen to him. So IMO, your D will decide who she wants to live with and if she wants to live with you and NEVER see your H, that's pretty much what'll happen.
Stay strong.
H4U.
Last edited by Hope4us; 11/22/0901:00 PM.
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
Thanks, H4U. I'm nervous that the kids won't be interested in staying with me in the apartment. This is their house, this is where all there stuff is, they have lots of room and all the luxuries, so it may be a hard sell to get them to spend any time with me. We'll see how it goes.
In loving memory of Trudy Bunny. Beloved cage-mate of Chester Bunny and loved by SpyBunny and D17. Trudy was a California Giant rabbit- Big (12 pounds!), Black and Beautiful! She ruled her cage with iron whiskers and velvet fur. She will be missed.
Thanks, H4U. I'm nervous that the kids won't be interested in staying with me in the apartment. This is their house, this is where all there stuff is, they have lots of room and all the luxuries, so it may be a hard sell to get them to spend any time with me. We'll see how it goes.
But you're their mother. Just work on trying to keep the healthiest, happiest relationship you can with them. Everything else will work out.
At some point, they'll figure out what's really going on between the two of you (if they haven't already).
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
In loving memory of Trudy Bunny. Beloved cage-mate of Chester Bunny and loved by SpyBunny and D17. Trudy was a California Giant rabbit- Big (12 pounds!), Black and Beautiful! She ruled her cage with iron whiskers and velvet fur. She will be missed.
My condolences to you, D17 and, of course, to poor ol' Chester.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
A 12 pound Bunny?!!! Makes me think of Monty Python.....
Bunny, don't borrow trouble about what the kids will do. I have found that my kids have adapted really well. They don't have a lot of choices yet, but it's also clear that they want to spend time with both of us.
Last edited by Virtually_Handsome; 11/23/0904:38 AM.
Thanks for the smile, VH- you reminded me of one of my all-time favorite movies. Long live the Killer Rabbit of Caerbannog! "the most foul, cruel, and bad-tempered rodent you ever set eyes on!... That rabbit's got a vicious streak a mile wide! It's a killer!... He's got huge, sharp, er, He can leap about. Look at the bones!... I *warned* you, but did you listen to me? Oh, no, you *knew*, didn't you? Oh, it's just a harmless little *bunny*, isn't it?"
