2) Addictive behavior/tendency/whatever (if it's not one thing, it's another) is a) common, though often harmless (billiards) and b) should be monitored closely as it is often a precursor to Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
I think some addictions are more positive than others, for example billiards would be compared to drinking or OP. But, I think the problem is that it would often take up most of X's hours, when maybe he could have spent time with family, church, or whatever. It's just kind of an unbalanced life to me. Spending 1 to 10 hours a week on a hobby is a positive thing, but when you spend 30-40 hours a week on a hobby in addition to having a full-time job I think that is what I would define as a dry-drunk or addictive personality. My X told me his job and hobbies were his 1st and 2nd priorities, than me and the kids. I should have taken that a serious red flag, but didn't.
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3) Do the research. Look up the term "Dry Drunk" on as many sites as you can One "tip off" is the person is indecisive(?). Look 'em up. There are so many definitions, characteristics and "symptoms" that either we are all dry drunks or no one is.
There are many definitions of dry drunk, but what I would suggest is a good definition is one who continues addictive behavior after "recovery", but just changes the focus of what one is addicted to. My other sober alcoholic family member doesn't display addictive traits at all, lives life in moderation.
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4) It is also an insulting, derisive label and even AA and other 12-Steps admit this. It is meant as an insult.
I didn't invent the term and certainly don't mean to insult with that term. I do think it's a serious problem, and one that people would be wise to get counseling/treatment for--whatever works.
