I feel like I have put the nearly four months we have been apart to good use, I have found myself again, sexy sassy rabbit is happy most of the time! I have gone back to work after two and half years, lost shed loads of weight, bought new clothes and had hair cuts, I have a life started dance classes again and spend a fair bit of the week riding my horse, but all of these are female orientated hobbies, although my job is quite male dominated. I live in the countryside, so not only is it not the done thing for ladies to be out in pubs here as you know, nothing is open in the evening so I cant go out lottering in coffee shops or bars like the girls seem more able to in the states so not so easy to make new friends be them male or female. Still have to conquer going to the cinema on my own!
I want to put the fun back into our R, the finances are going to be a big part of this, we have always had the traditional joint bank account, I have tried to separate things out before but got nowhere, but I do think our own accounts with fairly shared money, he earns a lot more than me when he is working and we agreed that bringing up our son was an important SAHM job so I dont have a highly paid career so I think its only fair we share. But its important to have our own money, I have often wanted to arrange surprises or presents and cant cos either he can see or its the wrong time of the month for money! He wants to be spontaneous but Im more of a plan ahead sorta girl so not sure how we work that one out, especially as the I have to arrange pet sitting ahead of schedule!
I am sure we can compromise but he has to start talking and he has to compromise he cant have it all his own way cos he is the one who has walked away, as they say on here we need to be happy not right! Like you say it has to be something new, Im just not sure how we are going to get there!
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Once lost but now found and happily married again!
