"I know that there are men that can treat me the way i want to be treated. No doubts there. I guess i want something easy, effortless, mutual, with the right timing, same level of maturity etc etc. I want some happiness."
I know this may look a little like Kettle=Black since I have been socially interacting, however, I have to agree with Kerry, Jeff, et al, that it doesn't seem like a good idea in your circumstance.
Keep in mind that it's usually (always?) a trade. A relationship that is "easy, effortless," etc. looks like magical thinking to me. From what we see here, over & over again, it's the Walk-a-way stance mostly seen when they find OP in the beginning.
As much as I've tried to take precautions in my 'dating' NG, I know there would be plenty of hurt if I R'd w/H, even if he does say he's a big boy & knows there are no guarantees.
Your sitch is in a different place. It's in more of the in or out stage.
"H got very upset. I think he is trying to avoid any kind of confrontation with OW."
