What I thought I would do is write to the store Personnel Manager and tell them the situation with my W and OM - OM used to work for the same company in a different location and W told me he wouldn't get transfer due to his sickness record (yeah, 45 and he can't even hold down a job at a supermarket!) - that could have been rubbish, but thought they should know. I would also copy it to their head office Personnel (as the store Personnel Manager is useless). I would also write to the Union as my W is a Union Rep and OM WAS one before he quit his job to come here (in fact maybe he still is one as I don't think the rep position is tied to your job). The last time I spoke to my W's Union boss she didn't even know anything about the split let alone that they both met while on training with the Union.
Anyway, thoughts? I don't want to be vindictive. I think they should know however. Along with speaking to her friend on Monday afternoon I can try and get all of this out of the way early and at the same time and then it's done.
No apologies for this 2x4. Are you out of your effing mind? DO NOT!!!
Re-read what you wrote above.
You are going to take something you heard from a 3rd party (gossip), that you don't even know is true, and take it upon yourself to potentially use that information to keep someone else from getting a job? Send that information to- what- 3 different places? The OM's relationship with his employer, or potential employer, is none of your business. I don't know about Scotland, but something like that in the U.S. could get you sued. Or worse.
It can't look like anything BUT being petty and vindictive. Which it is.
Look up the word DETACH. It means step away from, do not become involved in, separate.
Where you such drama queen in your M? Could this be one of the issues your W had with you?
Me: 50; Wife: 48 Gay; civil union in NJ no kids M: 15 years, together 17 Bomb (OW) 2/09 (EA 3mos/PA 3mos) ILYBINILWY W out of house, w/OW, in separation talks, nothing filed
