Keeping up your positive interaction sounds like the way to go right now, as long as you hold onto who you have become as an individule aslo.
JAK
Jak and Matilda, It is important that I hold onto myself. I continue to plan my own dance activities, which sometimes may include my W. I went to a new studio this week as they seem to be more ballroom and technique focused, which I want. My W didn't join me, as she pooped out after work. I filmed the lesson, and for two nights reviewed the film, and practiced on my own. Last night, I asked my W to help me. She did and was very helpful, and patient. She asked afterwards, if she was helpful. I told her that I knew she would smooth out the rough edges for me.
She joined me at my weekly ballroom venue. She ended up having a great time and we stayed till the place almost closed.
She wanted to go to a lesson on Thursday night. A lesson for me creates additional work. It is a commitment for a week or more to learn a move. I declined, and told her to join me on Monday nights. I explained why.
I joined her again at her latin venue last night. I was needed as there were few guys there. I had a group of five ladies that I rotated with. My W and her dance friend seem to be cooling off. He is newly divorced, and seems to be enjoying his freedom, and is looking for a new relationship.
My W is has been putting more effort into organizing and cleaning the house. Her mother comes over weekly for mother-daughter time to help clean the house. This week they spent time throwing out items that have accumulated over the years in the basement. Over 90% of the items in the basement are my W's.
She is worried that the Puerto Rico trip won't go well. I'm looking forward to the trip. I have a good feeling about it. We do travel well together, and this particular destination will fit us well.
CL
Last edited by Concerned_Listener; 11/21/0904:41 PM.
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
