"You are saying all of the things I should be thinking....but I could never get there."
That's because he doesn't have the secret DB decoder glasses. MWAA - HAH- HAH
You want him thinking. Let him come to you next. Keep your boundaries strong. Thoughts proceed emotion, emotion proceeds action (TEA).
You are handling it.
Coach
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.