Finally found them together, now what??

[P17]

Again, nothing new except now I know for sure. One open item, OM [b]says he is in the process of divorcing his W[b].

How do you know this? Do you know it for SURE? If not, don't believe it. WAS's amd OP's lie through their teeth (which is how the affairs start in the first place) to us AND each other. It wouldn't actually surprise me if it wasn't true.

Should I alert her(are there legal ramifications of this?) and if so, what is the best method? What would I gain, what could I potentially lose? I feel right now that my reasons would be vendictive. Not sure that is a good idea.

If you alert the OM's W then all you are doing is potentially gaining an ally. If she doesn't know then she will put pressure on OM to end the relationship. So then there are two pressures - pressure and your end and theirs.

Ramifications legally - none. You are stating simple facts. You're doing nothing else.

It's not vindictive. You're telling somebody else that their partner is cheating on them. It would be vindictive if they weren't or you started spreading rumours. Telling the truth to her is not vindictive.

Remember - all is fair in love and war. Do you want you W back? If the answer is yes, do what you need to do. Pick up the phone, go to her house, write her a letter or drop her an email. Just remember these things are better done in person or over the phone so if you write a letter / email you could just ask her to contact you.

Do it today. Don't wait. The longer you wait the closer those two get together.