Once my X moved out he only came in the house we owned with the real estate agent. At one point he called me and said because his name was on the deed he was entitled to a key. NOPE!!! I told him he was not and it wasn't up for discussion. Now that I have my own house, he has not been inside yet. Not sure if he ever will. There is no way I would trust him to be in my house when I wasn't there, he would invade my privacy to try to find someting he could use against me. When we were still living together (and he was spending every evening until around midnight at OW's house) he put spyware on my computer. That's how he discovered this site and read what I wrote here. Yeah, he's not coming in my new place!!!
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
Good heavens, what a sneaky bas!*rd! That is so crazy BND!
Gabe is ridiculously like a lost puppy dog, but he can stay lost as far as I'm concerned. Junk yard dog...:) My only concern for him is in regards to how his situation affects Marc.
I have no reason to trust him personally, but he isn't a thief and he has never spied on me really. I've never given him any reason to. There is nothing he could use against me and it's not like he wants custody or anything. He's trying to get the heck out of GA (supposedly) and if that is what he wants to do then I'm all for it.
It did surprise me that he felt like he could just show up at the house, but he was invited in by his son. Marc told me that he had said he just wanted to see him since he had some time yesterday afternoon and then Marc asked him to come in and hang out with him. Marc is allowed to have his dad as a guest. I can't deny him that. There was never that kind of contention between us and if I were to tell Marc he can't invite his dad in that could cause problems for him which he is not equipped to handle. Better for them to have peace together.
Now, if I'm home and I don't invite him in......that is another subject all together!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Gabe called me to ask which Wii game he should get Marc for his birthday next week. He told me all of them they had on sale and I told him which one. He then said he was working tomorrow but would bring the game by after that. I told him I was working tomorrow too and that's when I rambled on and stuck my foot in it. I told him I was going out tomorrow night after work and he then got all coy with me and asked if I was going on a date. Why oh why couldn't I lie and say yes? Good grief. I'm too darned honest. I said no and I guess the way it came out he thought he needed to say that he thought I needed to go on a date. That really bothered me. My xh wants me to go on a date why? WTH business is it of his? I again told him no, that wasn't going to be happening. Ugh! Again, I stuck my foot in it because I speak before I think. He asked me why not? Why didn't I want to date. I finally slammed my mouth shut and just said that we weren't going there.
Yes, again, he led me to a place I don't want to go and all because I opened my stupid mouth in the first place out of some dumb force of habit.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Good heavens, what a sneaky bas!*rd! That is so crazy BND!
I have no reason to trust him personally, but he isn't a thief and he has never spied on me really. I've never given him any reason to. There is nothing he could use against me and it's not like he wants custody or anything.
Mine tried to take custody saying I was mentally unstable and he was the more suitable parent. Because he filed for custody I ended up filing for divorce, and in his answer to the divorce complaint he filed a cross complaint and one of his "complaints" was that I spent hours online posting 1000's of posts on this website!!! My lawyer laughed when I told her about the site. She wanted me to print off the posts to bring as evidence. I am not sure how his lawyer was going to argue that posting on a website where the goal is to save your marriage had somehow become grounds for divorce! It would have been more evidence in my favor because it was documentation of him not coming home at night, etc. LOL Yes, mine was one of the crazier situations and crazier x's!!!
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
And that's one of the reasons, I prefer emails or texts vs. phone calls. If he had emailed you that, you could/would have just ignored it. Gives you time to think of a response. And he would prob. have been less likely to make those kind of comments to you in the first place...
And that's one of the reasons, I prefer emails or texts vs. phone calls. If he had emailed you that, you could/would have just ignored it. Gives you time to think of a response. And he would prob. have been less likely to make those kind of comments to you in the first place...
I try to do everything through e-mail as well. Mostly because it creates a record. My X is notorious for forgetting things we did agree on and trying to tell me I agreed to things I didn't. If he says I agreed I ask to see it in writing! Unless he has it in writing, no agreement!!!! And in your case Mishka, Karen is right, if you are answering in an e-mail it gives you time to think before responding!!!!!
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
Unfortunately Gabe doesn't have an email that he checks very often. No computer. He has to use the library computer. I do try to do everything via text whenever possible. He called me though and I was pretty sure it was about Marc's birthday present since he had told me he was looking for games for him.
Oh well, it didn't linger, so no prob.
Went to dinner at a hibachi place and to see New Moon last night with two of 'my girls' and one other woman I had never met. She was lots of fun too and it's always great to meet new people.
We even went shopping at Kohl's after the movie since they were open until midnight!!! So, let's see, dinner, movie, AND shopping all in one night! SCORE!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
He asked me why not? Why didn't I want to date. I finally slammed my mouth shut and just said that we weren't going there.