Ups and Downs

[Energizer Bunny]

She got her place today. She's moving out the day before Thanksgiving.

It hurts more than I thought it would. I guess I'm not all cried out.

I am strong enough to survive it now though.

[Coach]

EB, Another bomb dropped on you. Take care of yourself. Use your support network, stay busy and don't talk to her. Come up with a plan on how deal with Weds-Thurs later this weekend. I know this hurts.

Coach

[givingitmyall]

EB, Sorry man. That's tough. But so are you. Take Cocah's advice and stay busy.

This is just one of those times when you have to gut it out and be strong.

[Energizer Bunny]

Thanks Coach.

You're a good guy and really know your stuff.

[Energizer Bunny]

Thanks for checking in GIMA.

I am a lot stronger (or more detached) than I have been. It's still hitting me though. After all of this time.

[givingitmyall]

Being detached doesn't mean you turn into a robot. It just means you know you will be ok no matter what.

It's ok to be human.

[Hlpmeplz]

EB, Sorry to hear about the latest. I guess another bomb can hit any one of us at any time which is why detaching is so important. It should also tell you something about her that she decides to do this the day before thanksgiving. Stay busy and use that fact to help you detach even more. By all means, DON'T HELP W/THE MOVE! Go somewhere, just don't be around. Good Luck!

[tristan]

Hi EB,

I am sorry. Do you have plans for Thanksgiving? If not, I would suggest going to a church or community center to donate your time and help the less fortunate.

Take care.

[Energizer Bunny]

I'm planning to help with the move. No real motive behind it. I don't really want other people coming in my house hauling stuff out though. She doesn't even want much from here. Not sure if she feels bad about taking stuff or just doesn't want anything from our life together.

She still hasn't told S that she's gotten her place and is going. (He knows that she's planning to go, but I don't think he really gets it)

I think she wants to have Thanksgiving here at out house believe it or not. We haven't discussed it though. We haven't talked about much of the details.

I'd rather not have Thanksgiving with her. It may be good for S though. I'm not sure what to do here.

[Gardener]

EB,

I'm planning to help with the move. No real motive behind it.

Your call, but I say don't. I got a truck and moved her out/moved her in. Put up shelves, mirrors, the whole 9 yards. It's hard to articulate other than to say I later had wished that when she got her apartment and we agreed on what she could take, that I had then just sat back on my butt and said, "Okay, I guess you're all set to go". And then done nothing.

My experience & subsequent regret fwiw.