Looks like I might soon be LBS...newcomer here

[brownidmom]

No real interaction with H this week so far, except he told me he wants to go to CT (MIL lives there) for Thanksgiving weekend. Thing is, I was denied the day after Thanksgiving at work, so I can't go anywhere. I got no indication of whether or not he still wants to go and take the boys, can't imagine staying home on a holiday without them, but they DO want to see their cousins ( we have no family where we live). I'll have to think this through.

bim

So...last night, I asked H if he was planning on taking the boys to CT without me. He said, "They can stay here with you if you want them to." bim: "I have to work on Friday, I can't keep them here if you go." ...in case I didn't say before, we are both from other places, no family here.

So, I went to work today and asked my boss if they were considering letting anyone else off the day after Thanksgiving. She agreed to let me off even though they only wanted 5 managers to be off that day. I was next in line on seniority.

It is possible that he doesn't want me to go, which is fine. But if the boys go, I am going. If he doesn't want me to go, they will stay here with me. That's my position and I'm sticking to it. How should I broach the subject of going away with H without sounding like I am mind-reading?

Thanks for your advice in advance.

bim