Can I save my marriage?

[Gnosis]

OK Britt, I know women don't like to hear this, but "CALM DOWN!"

You are not responsible for your parents. You do NOT have to apologize for them and their behavior to your H. They are adults and can make up their own minds and have their own feelings - just like your H.

He was embarrassed? Shame, poor, poor baby. -- And GOOD for you (store this knowledge and guard it safely... this is a key for you)

His family is nice to you because you DON'T DESERVE the way he is treating you. Plain and simple. As for:

"How are we ever going to have a chance to work on this if your dad treats me like that? There is no way I'm coming home now!!"

WAaaa, WAaaaa, WAS script. Plain and simple. Emotional blackmail. This ONE little incident has nothing to do with you. You should have stopped, listened... then during a period of silence told him, "Grow up! I don't control my parents or their feelings just like I don't control yours. Unless you have something to say that I really want to hear... don't waste my time. Bye." .... then hangup.

Pull out your big girl panties woman. Don't let him guilt, emotionally blackmail or gas-light you anymore.

I don't know what else to say to H. I'm scared to death that these things keep happening and sooner or later H isn't going to get over them like he has in the past.

All this is BULLSH!T... gas-lighting and trying to project his guilt onto you. YOU have done NOTHING wrong and he knows it.

I gotta run. Just posted to let you know someone (me) is watching and supporting because the weekends are slowwwww on the board.

So relax, calm down and enjoy the weekend with your folks. Don't blame them. Your dad did the RIGHT thing. COOL!!!! You're lucky to have a dad like that. Thank him for me.