Sometimes it is okay having my H around, sometimes it is difficult because it is so hard to detach from the crazy. I think it has been okay for the kids here, though, because he has gotten to the point (after months of not) where he does interact with them a decent amount so it is at least somewhat "normal" for them.
But some days it is so difficult. I had a total meltdown earlier this afternoon but I guess I needed to because I feel better now.