I think my H would also be out of here pretty quickly if we had the money, too. It is so sad. Hope the detaching works for you! It is so hard.
I think the glimpses I get of my "real" H are what keeps me here. He is still in there I believe and at times seems he is trying to fight his way back out. I am grateful when I see those glimpses and see him being way more normal with the kids these days, at least when he feels like it.
