Why can't I just do it!?

[Trixi]

SallyM!!! So nice to see you! I hope that you and your H are doing well.

The "I'm done" email actually would be the first time *ever* I would be taking matters into my own hands and not waiting to see if he'll pick me. Usually I stay quiet (like I am now) and then he comes back of his own accord.

Our lives are so separate now; I mean I've lived in my rental for two years now, we don't have any joint financial things (aside from the house), the kids are grown.... I mean, about the only thing I haven't given myself "permission" to move forward on is really getting back into the dating scene. And even though I know he has gone out on dates in the past (and who knows, maybe even in the present) I don't feel it is right for me actually start actively dating without giving him notice that I intend to do so....is that weird?

Do I owe my H a heads-up that I intend to start dating? Maybe it doesn't have to be a f-you'ish email....maybe something more along the lines of "I'm tired of waiting, I'm turning my attention away from you and intend to start dating and moving forward with my life. At some point, we'll need to decide how to proceed from here."

If I refer back to BBJ's rock the boat thread, there's no reason for me NOT to send an "I'm done" email.