It wasn't only an EA my friend. Women work differently from us. She created an entire fantasy around this man. He met her emotional needs and dreams. He buttered her up and told her everything she wanted to hear. She's probably out looking for another "man of her dreams" conjured up in trashy romance novels.
Originally Posted By: v1olin
My wife is still convinced that she is leaving me because of ME and not HIM.
I hear you. And its partly true. She has rewritten your history and highlighted every slight (no matter how big or small) to increase her anger and resentment towards you -- to justify to herself that she is right.
Can you remember what she wrote in journal? What was it that attracted her to this POS in the first place? e.g. "OM is so considerate of me feelings. He 'gets me' and would never leave the toilet seat up in the bathroom."
That there is 'intel' my friend and you can use this to your advantage. Another thing you can do is re-read your thread and list out what has caught her attention in the past.
Assuming of course that you are detached enough to give this a shot without expectations. Only when you have nothing left to lose do you stand to gain. The objective here is to become the one with the least to lose in the relationship. "He who cares least about the relationship is the one who holds the cards."
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