Anything you say or suggest will be disregarded out of hand because it came from you. Doesn't matter if it's true, doesn't matter if you're the world's leading expert on the subject--if it comes out of your mouth or from you somehow your WAH will blow it off.
I know what you are saying... I think I said pretty much the same thing to the doc. He has blown off my suggestions before saying " I am not going to do it on your agenda" and that was with regards to taking our daughter out for a bike ride. I can only imagine his response re: my convo about him at the doc office if he found out.
I know I need to work on me and get to the point where I can walk away from H. (Just like I did before in 2001.) I really have to work on my confidence and trust my abilities that I can take care of me and DDs. I look back in my mid 20's and think of how I travelled by myself, moved to England alone. Those were big steps for me especially for a person who is quiet and introverted. I reflect back and wonder where did the courage come from. So, its in me somewhere and I need to re-tap that resource.
Still have lots of questions but just holding off until I finish DR and then maybe some of them will get answered.
And thanks again for all the support from everyone.