Guess I'll save this one for my IC appt next week. I really think it stems from the fact that he doesn't think he did anything wrong - that he was just being a good friend.
This is b.s. Go back and re-read your old posts; your husband ADMITTED to you that his relationship with this other couple was potentially destructive for him and his marraige.
As for the phone records, I don't know what you gain from checking them.
a) he knows you have access to them, so it's not a real good source of intel;
b) he never agreed to no-contact/transparency anyway.
c) it makes you look weak and paranoid, and it enables him to successfully portray you that way (not saying that you are -- just that it's helping him position it that way).
If it were me, I'd either give it (intel) up completely, or -- preferably -- I'd switch to another form.
