I don't think you fully understand the plight of the hd spouse. As far as we see it there is an issue in the r..the lack of physical intimacy sends us that message..however for the ld spouse all is well as long as we are not complaining about the lack of physical intimacy and are happy with what we do get.
I understand that the grass isn't greener on the other side..meaning that if you leave because of lack of physical intimacy doesn't mean you are going to get more physical intimacy with others..however it does mean that you will no longer have to deal with the constant feelings of rejection from your spouse.
do you know what it's like to feel alone when there is someone else sitting in the room with you?
do you know what it's like to have a wonderful day with your spouse where you're laughing and sharing moments together but feel an aching becuase there is no physical intimacy?
do you know what it's like to want to wrap your arms around your spouse but feel you can't becuase it wont be well received?
do you know what it's like to spend the day with your spouse and wish to have their arms around you but they prefer to keep their own physical space?
Why is it that the hd spouse should look to see and appreciate the ways in which a ld parnter expresses their love and learn to speak in that language so that the ld feels loved and appreciated all the while stifling their own native tounge of physical touch just so as not to shake the boat and cause a rif in the r?
