I'm sorry to see you are still dealing with all of this. Am wondering, though, are you considering writing the I'm done email because you truly are done and want to move on, or if you are simply hoping to re-start your and your h's pattern...when you start to detach, he comes back/tries to keep you where you were.
what do you think?
I know my h and I had that pattern and it was really tough to break.
I also know that before things turned around for us, I finally realized that I may not be done on his timetable, and that that was okay. What I made sure was that it didn't stop me from moving forward, from creating my own life. Didn't mean I had to file, I was adament that it was his thing to do, until I was ready in my own heart to. But it also meant that I was done with the back and forth/up and down pattern. It was so freeing, and I hope regardless of what you decide about the email, that you find yourself there.
(((HUGS)))
hope you are well, my friend. I know you've had a tough road.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
