I know that this problem occurs to both men and women. It just seems that even though the results are tragic in both situations, that the repair that is needed is different depending on which sex is the HD spouse. For us men that are HD, the repair instructions are this: "FIX EVERY POSSIBLE NON-SEXUAL PROBLEM YOU CAN THINK OF IN THE MARRIAGE, and then MAYBE you might see SOME improvement in the marriage." I am not sure what the repair option is for when the WOMEN is the HD spouse, but it is probably different then for us guys.
Quote: but then again I could just accept that in time the passion dies from all r's anyway
DO NOT EVER BELIEVE THIS LOAD OF CR#P. This is something that LD spouses really want us to believe. My wife has tried to pull this on me, cause all the older women in her circle of friends say this too! This is not true at all, there are HD women out there, even in older age. If you read the "Love Languages" book they talk about how the "IN LOVE" experience dies after 2 years. This has NOTHING to do with passion, the "In Love" esperience is the ability to ignore all the faults of your spouse, it does NOT refer to passion.
Do a search on "Great Marriages" or "Great Marriage Tips" on the internet. You might be surprised at what you find. I went to some of the websites that describe great marriages or tips, and that one fact is they say that one very obvious trait of great mariages is that these couples REMAIN lovers for their entire marriages, that they have GREAT, FREQUENT, sex. That Sex is almost NEVER an issue in great marriages. So anyone that tells you that Sex dies, or that it is not important to a great marriage, They are smokin some mighty fine stuff.
Good luck to all of us HD spouses, we are goning to need it!
