By telling him to leave, he will do just that. My kids are what is holding me back. I can't do this to them with the holidays here. I live 2000 miles away from my family.
You aren't telling him to leave, you are giving him a choice. Either be married or have a OW but cake-eating won't fly with this chick. You aren't doing this to your kids, your husband is. Don't take responsibility for his problems.
You're right.. He is the product of a very dysfunctional family with 2 parents who HATED each other. Remember the movie War of the Roses? that's them. So anytime I do anything like that, he calls me by his mother's first name.
You're right.. he DID do this.
He keeps throwing things back in my face about how I rejected him and that we got here because of ME.. that if I had showed him more love and not shut him out, he never would have gone outside the marriage.
I told him that he needs to let go of that resentment towards me.. because like it or not, we need to have some sort of relationship for these kids and he can't go on like that. But he doesn't get it.
M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
