By telling him to leave, he will do just that. My kids are what is holding me back. I can't do this to them with the holidays here. I live 2000 miles away from my family.
You aren't telling him to leave, you are giving him a choice. Either be married or have a OW but cake-eating won't fly with this chick. You aren't doing this to your kids, your husband is. Don't take responsibility for his problems.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
