can pursuing a WAS be a 180?

[avermont]

Gucci, I came across your post wherein you were very specific about ending A, WAH coming back once LBS started dating. I haven't been able to re-find it. Gosh, there's a lot of posts out there!

I just asked my gf's to go out with me--in my town--on Saturday so I could get myself out there. Don't have but one single male friend to bring (invited him too).

Did sign up for Match.com. Not really ready for it yet, but it would be good for the ego to see if anyone is interested.

I guess my next goal is to get out in town and be present. I have been GAL, but in other places. The trick of course, is finding other single folks to hang with, because of course we are all used to traveling with couples.

Also--posts or books on detaching? Trying to take mental energy that currently goes to the R and saying "Detach detach" each time a thought comes up. It is mentally exhausting, but I am trying.