ok - well then I guess we will have to agree to disagree. If you equate setting boundaries that are healthy and could help a new type of R flourish to being a hard ass, well, I guess we won't ever agree on the purpose of setting boundaries.
You don't need to be a hard ass, mean, unkind, rude or anything close to set loving boundaries in a detached way. Then again, you aren't detached so I can see why our opinions about boundaries are so vastly different.
