So, this weekend was our now S10's birthday weekend. His BFF is my BFF's son (same class @ school). Their birthday's are within a week of each other, so they wanted a party together. My H suggested taking them to a water park, w/a few of their friends and both families. (H is also friendly w/BFF's H.)
We went, and had a good time. The kids had a blast.
My BFF knows my H can be a pain, but not the extent of our issues... A couple of interactions to note...
We arrive at the condo (we rented a five-bedroom condo for all of us), and BFF says, "You two can have the master bedroom since (mindfull) set everything up, BUT I expect some action in that fancy room!" I was walking into another room when she said it, but I heard H's reply... "Whoa!" (Of course) I react by trying not to show emotion, and generally just going about my business. H starts following me around, trying to talk to me, without mentioning BFF's comment. I am choking back emotion, just answering and "busying" myself.
Then (this is really just a dumb interaction), yesterday the BFF and I go shopping while the dad's have the kids in the water park for two hours. We come back, and I have a new pair of glasses on (way cute, btw). H says, "Nice glasses! You look like Elvis!" I don't say anything, and just kind of look at him, with eyebrows slightly raised. BFF says, "I think they're darling!!" H says, "Fine. I'll meet you guys upstairs. I'm not riding the elevator w/HER." BFF says, "WTF?" H says, "She's pissed because I didn't compliment her." BFF says, "She doesn't look pissed to me. She didn't respond to you in any way really." We get in elevator, and H walks the stairs... BFF (in the elevator) says, "Sheesh, can HE be high maintenance!" I tell her, "You have no idea." The door opens, and H is there, and he, pretty much, has let it all pass.
We go on with our weekend, and enjoy the rest.
He knows the stress I'm under with this situation. He knows my health situation. He knows and witnesses it.
WHY?
Sorry, if I feel sorry for myself, but, now, on top of worrying about my heart issues, my cough has escalated, and it's making me wheeze, and cough so hard I throw up. My chest is tight, etc... I'm wondering if it might be pneumonia.
H was fine this am, even warm. I helped him with sending an email to the CFO of the company he does business for, and talked a bit in my office about the weekend, etc... H was having some major stomach issues (wonder why!), and thought it may be a gluten issue since he felt the worst after having breads, pizza, and pasta eight days in a row. So, last week I researched it, took him almost completely off of anything w/gluten in it, and he's doing a lot better now. Before he left today to go out of town for work, I packed him some snacks, a dinner, some sweets to take with him. He's back home tomorrow night, and going to this holistic doc that I've seen do miracles on some of my friends. Maybe she'll cure his mood(s).
One can only hope.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
I'll try the speaking softly when H comes home tomorrow night. We'll see what happens. It might come natural since I feel like hell!
Good point on the "interacting" and the holidays. They're never easy, but usually filled w/hope!!!
The medical issues have not happened before. I have no idea where this is coming from, but it's scary because my dad had a quadruple bi-pass @ 53. I'm only 10 years away from that, and I live w/a ton more stress than my dad ever did/does. He's SO easy-going. I used to think we were just alike.
Rodeo weekend! Wow! Sounds like fun, though! It would be so fun if you came by the tournament to say hello! "A fellow soccer dad" is enough of an explanation to the H, after all! Please bring a pair of gloves so you can give him a good whack. You'll probably end up loving him, and telling me I'm over-exaggerating if you meet him. He's everyone's bud. Remember, you're MY FRIEND!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
I think you might want to get to the doc... with your recent heart issue and all. If you are dealing with the piggy flu (which seems possible, from the symptoms my kids had) they might want to give you the anti-viral drugs. My understanding is that you need to get on them quickly for them to help as much as they can.
Barring that, I'll get you a nice cup of hot tea!
Yeah, the Rodeo is, or at least was, as big deal around here! There are things going on for the whole week, leading up to the big pro rodeo. I think the kids getting the two days off is one of those tradition things that probably isn't really needed, but it will stick around because it makes Tucson "different".
And don't worry! If I get to see you at the soccer tournament, I won't forget that you are my friend!
mindfull, I'm really concerned for your heart issue. you are young, you shouldn't have problems like this, although I can understand the stress your in! do you have my phone number still? please call me if you can.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Hi ST... Can't type much now. Just got home from Dr. I have a sinus infection, bronchitis, AND.... PNEUMONIA! Got a nice shot in my butt cheek, and I have to have another one tomorrow. ICK!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
poor thing! you get some rest and drink lots of lemon water.
shot's in the butt DO stink!! I had to get that negative blood shot thing when I was pregnant since I'm negative something.
Try not to worry about any relationship stuff, just focus on you getting well.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Please bring a pair of gloves so you can give him a good whack. You'll probably end up loving him, and telling me I'm over-exaggerating if you meet him. He's everyone's bud. Remember, you're MY FRIEND! 
poor thing! you get some rest and drink lots of lemon water.