Wife starts her new position on Monday, i was thinking of sending an email Monday good luck at new place.
I thought it would be nice, she emaild me where she was going to be, when she would start and her phone number with extension last week.
Now when she had emailed me this info I was nice asked a couple yes?'s and nothing back in regards to her job change or answering the questions I asked.
If I acknowledge this move, would it be considered pursuing or be considered uncaring? Because I am not pursuing and I am caring.
I'm not checking in on her, but acknowledging, I didn't forget about your job change. When she had the presentation, I emailed her, I didn't forget about it and she had texted me that it went fine when I texted her how it went two wks ago.
I know everyone hates it when something scary or new is being done and no one acknowledges. Almost like a new hairdoo.
Since she didn't ask a question, and it is not about the kids, there is no response necessary. I know it's hard to go dark when you are used to being open, nice and accommodating, but at least try twilight by ignoring the really obvious ones. Dark will come. And it will help YOU.
M 65 H 64 T 39 & M 36 @ S 12/08 Two Ds
Do you know that the harder thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing? Nothing that has meaning is easy. ~ The Weather Man
wife left a gift card (a way old xmas present) and a couple coupons to my favorite stores on my cntr, she also called, phone was in the car so i didn't know 'til got the voice mail.
"hi i'm at so and so, need to hear from you about picking up D tonite or i'll head that way."
had D text her i was taking D home.
Gave the giftcard to D.
The giftcard was from MIL, that I know gave wife the money to pay for her retainer. Like I want anything from that stick that never liked me anyway. No i didn't tell D that. Did show her new tatoos though.
'bout the coupons no as much as i'd like to think it's a good sign, by now i know it isn't.
'bout s being awful upset, found out from D he cried all night and most nights about wanting us back together. D said wife just ignores him now.
Loved this, dropped D off, theirs new lawn art, there's a scare crow where'n my old fav blue jeans and my favorite hat, SWEET. Pretty sure I did the right thing putting heartless as my ringtone for her now.
When S came out to get a hug in Driveway, said hey love your mom's creativity, that looks great with my hat on. It wasn't there yesterday, she must've done it today.
Funny she'll give me a $50 gift card and coupons, but shows no darn remorse at all for the other pain she's putting everyone thru.
Man I cried good tonite, too. Remember the last time that hat was on someone's head it was on her nude body as a surprise when I came home from work.
I can only hope and pray that this turns out the way I hope.
thinking of this I said a prayer for all of us on this board.
The heartache really just sux.
D said mom said some stuff, i said listen for the millionith time she didn' mean it like it sounded.
I vented for a sec, D I could get mad at your mom for this or this and I'm not.
That's the difference ur mom is going thru something and we just got to be patient.
"I can only hope and pray that this turns out the way I hope."...pray for yourself and the kids. Remember what I said about the marriage being over. Hope is basically the same thing as wanting and expecting. Give up on that...work on changing your mindset to "being open to reconciling". I know it sounds like you are giving up on the marriage and all, but trust me, It is what you will find is the right path in the end. Remember the man who looks for happiness will never find it, the man who just lives will have happiness come to him.
Don't read into the card and coupons....nothing there. Good job on giving the card to your daughter....nice touch and I am sure it is that little thing your daughter will remember for awhile.
Roadhouse is my favorite movie....I was thinking the line "Is your mother a wh@re? Well is she?" or something like that....be nice and remember that words mean nothing and actions make history.
