Help... I need to stop reacting!

[ginab1966]

Rocked:

Just wanted to give you a big ^5 my gurl. I also have had to think quickly on my feet in the past few weeks and it's so difficult but it's getting easier.

Also, I think it's easier when you are so convicted. Like you, I am convicted that I am IN my marriage. I will fight for my family, for my child and for my own dignity and self respect. I will not be disrespected by having OW in our lives. You and I also realize that our H's are really in a fog created by the dreamy like state the OW puts them in. It's not real..it's not even close to real. But for them, it's intoxicating.

My H waffeled for a long time and is still struggeling with hiw OW deamons. In their core, I thing our H's know what the right thing is to do but frankly, the other choice is "new, shiney, sparkly, fun". No matter what it is we do, we cannot compete with that, nor should we lower ourselves to try. This is the time when we have to really dig into our core and become the women we were meant to be.

I know my husband thinks that my steadfast committment in the face of all this pain is really admirable. To me it's not admirable...it's just what my God, my gut and my instincts tell me to do. This is a family...it's the core of who I am. My child will not be shuttled between two houses at Christmas for the rest of her life if I have anything to say about it.

You are doing so well honey...I'm so damned proud of you. You are an inspiration and it keeps me going. I've been doing this since July and it's not for the faint of heart.

Have a terrific day you fabulous woman you. Stay strong, stay rooted in reality and stand your ground in those high heeled boots. xoxoxoxoxoxox

Gina B