He wants to come home....HELP!

[praying_in_GA]

I woke up this morning to a message on the answering machine from H. All it said was 'call me when you get up, bye'. So, I waited around for a bit and called him.

He wants to come home tonight. He said he will clean out the spare room and stay in there. He said he 'isn't being a good friend or a good father' and he feels like a bad person. He said he was trying to be honest but sometimes that isn't what is best. He said he wants to be here for us and that he will listen to me. (?)

I told him I didn't want him to come home unless he was ready to work on the M or talk to a counselor. He said if that is what I want to do he will do it.

PLEASE HELP!! Where do I go from here? I realized after I said it that the M statement might have been a bad one. I am FINALLY in a place where I am okay living without him. We have a schedule and a routine. He got my e-mail last night and called the kids at 9:15 to say goodnight. I am happy he wants to be here, but I am SO SCARED to be hurt again. I was actually kinda pissed he would just ASSume he could move on in anytime he wanted to!

Is here here just for the kids?? If so, can we work on us even though the kids brought him back? How do I proceed from here?

We aren't going to be home tonight until after 10pm. I have dinner and a movie plans and the kids are going to my aunts to play while I am out.