If that's more important to him than working at -- and saving -- his own marriage, then that's pretty sad.
Yours has always been a very difficult sitch to advise upon, M. Because this relationship that your husband has with this other couple is so strange; so gray. You didn't really ever get an agreement for no-contact (or even an agreement that he would TELL you when there was contact), so there's not really anything you can call "foul" on here. And if he knows you're checking the phone records, then anything he WOULD do that would be inappropriate, he's not going to do from that phone, so it's not even a good source of intel.
