Not suppose. Do whats right. You need to start gaining some confidence in your abilities as a human being. Validate. Unconditional love. Listen. Nothing more. Do not use this in anyway to get at your wife or to forward you passive aggressive behaviour.
All your thoughts are of a passive aggressive negative nature.
If I was you I would talk about this at your support groups and here. This is one area that I think you should really work on.
