The midlifers hurt too. Maybe they don't know why, but they still hurt. They have to put 2 and 2 together and discover themselves and analyze their actions. Some may never do this. I think we all believe at one point ours will not. They get so far gone. If they do hit bottom, we have to let them. Don't step in their way, let them fall. That will be the only way they learn. They are not real deep thinkers at this point -
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
the process does hurt - - so true. and yes we have to go through it.. it is who we are. healing.. ugh.
ml'rs yes i believe they feel ... and when they feel they either face it or run deeper. my x admitted it last weekend.. he doesn't want to face it. so obviously, unlike me where it was heal or die..so i chose to heal.. he still has not hit that cross roads yet.
living -- that is what i choose. i miss him yes - but i can not die waiting..
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
All I do is pray for him and pray that my kids are safe with him. He is certainly not himself and has not been for such a long time. I wonder if he is doing any illegal substances. Maybe time with tell..
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
since waking this am i have been missing x. not marriage - not that life -but him. i miss him today.
and in church thoughts of him - his humor, his smile and his friendship stayed in my mind..... i prayed for him.. and yes even prayed for his return yet again.
but my mind/head know different. the only way he would ever even try to start over is if he first healed himself... and i just can't believe that he would even try --- so i will continue to let him go ..
it is truly like a slow death.... i miss him.
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
u are not insane, just human. Don't be so hard on yourself. Not too many people have to go through what we have, give yourself credit. What u lose will be returned to you many times over.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
