I did not feel confindence in myself but in retrospect he did not help the issue. I am not perfect. I am not a victim. I just want to turn my marriage around. I want him to see that it is not all my fault.
He won't see that it's partly his fault given the situation he is in. It's not going to happen so I'd forget about that for the time being. Accept that, forgive him (for you, don't tell him you've done it) and keep GALing and doing the 180.
The man that you have their just now HAS a lot of problems, a lot of issues and a lot of baggage as you said. Bear in mind HE made his choice and HE must live with the consequences. HE needs to stop wallowing in his own pool of self-pity, stand up, be a man and get on with his life with you (or without you). Until he get's help for his problem and stop feeling sorry for himself you won't be able to do much of anything with him. But remember HE has to do that, not you.
Last edited by P17; 11/20/0911:11 AM.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
