Separated--Does Not Admit to OW

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A part of me hopes you are right and its a good sign. Another part scares me that I want to find hope where it isnt.

I would say it's a good sign. But then as you said this may give you unfounded hope. I would look at it more of an interesting sign - there is a crack in the ceiling but it doesn't mean the roof is coming down.

As Saffie says, if the theory on going dark is to be believed (and there is no reason for me to think otherwise as I just started it yesterday!) then I think that you just wait this one out. He will miss you, that's human nature (even though I think on the surface my W won't miss me, I know deep down she will).

The more you move on and GAL the more annoyed he will become and the more stress it will put on their relationship. But at the end of the day, I see going dark as giving you time to sort yourself out so that when the WAS comes to you with their final decision in 2 weeks, 2 months or 2 years, either the Big D or reconciliation, you can deal with either of them calmly and rationally.

Saffie - just bought both of those books from Amazon ...