Separated--Does Not Admit to OW

[saffie]

I actually think there is a lot to P17@s take on the post C increase in your H and OW seeing each other.

You have been 'dark' such a short time that don't get disheartened by your H's apparent lack of contact; he truly hasn't had time to notice yet.

Do you or any of the posters have any reommendations on books to read? Does anyone know much about mindfulness?

Don't know much about 'mindfulness' but I am a real beleiver in the worth of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. It's what helped me turn myself and then my M around. There are lots of good books out there on the market but Martin Seligman is someone I know is particularly good. He wrote Learned Optimism and he also wrote Authentic Happiness. Not always the lightest of reads but I found them a great help.

Using CBT practitioner is by far the best though. I used my books in conjunction with one.