Hmmm.. well what would convince you she was sincere? When we first go into a new R we are taking a risk, and that's with someone you don't know.. Now, what we do know is that No R is perfect, but is what you had with your ex worth one more risk? With an intentional effort on both sides? I understand where you're coming from as the hurt party, but testing your ex, as mine, I think was testing me, has only made me feel as if I was losing my dignity. I've been more than cordial, I've been treating him the same as when we were married by cooking, asking if he needs help with anything, being supportive, keeping his favorite coffee at my place if he wants it, being agreeable to most anything and finding I was developing feelings for him that made me feel hopeless because of testing and his response of surprise that I felt that way, followed by the statement that he may never have romantic feelings for me... Is that what you would tell your ex?
