Not sure what to do

[TrentC]

I wish I could make peace, but my mind gets the better of me. I've been reading DR which has been good, but I get caught up with what W has said to me and that it looks like our marriage was worth nothing to her. She shows no regret or emotion in telling me she wants out.

This is why we (and the book) say to not believe anything they say.

They are confused; they are hurting as well. They're trying to make themselves feel better about their decision. They're trying to make you feel better about their decision.

One person said to treat them like an addict that's going through withdrawal. Another, slightly less charitable, way to look at it would be as a tantrum thrown by a teenager -- you know how they say "I HATE YOU!" when you ground them for skipping school? Same mentality.