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MapleGal,

Had my usual doctor appointment today (have been going weekly from jan-sep and now every 3 weeks) for my allergy injections. So I see my GP all the time. Well, today I finally caved and told him my troubles- same details as what I have written here ( it was a 50 min visit).

He figures H is depressed and that needs to be addressed first. We discussed H's family history (mental illness - mom, substance abuse -dad, depression - sis) and background, turning 40 in a couple of months and that H said he was depressed this summer. He is urging me to get H to see his own doctor about his depression. Basically he is saying that treating his depression, H will be more optimistic about MC and working on M?? (my doc is all for saving marriages if there is no abuse.) And said if he is depressed now, it will be nothing to what he will feel if we D.

So I am wondering how I should bring up the subject. Going to have to think about the best approach as I don't want to seem like I have been talking about him behind his back.

It will be easier if I just cut and paste my reply to KLC's similar sitch and concerns the other day. So, here it is, FWIW:

I am concerned about his mental health because I do believe he has some depression issues.Anyone out there that can shed some light on the depression issue?

Talk to his physiician re: depression. Can be caused by a lot of things including at his age by the natural decrease in Testosterone production. See if you can get him to go for a physical (or have Dr. call him up and say he's overdue.) Hopefully Dr. will test for Free Testosterone (available in bloodstream) not just Total Testosterone, which proves nothing. Also, most Dr.s will look to see if a man falls within his age group's Normal Range. This is nonsense: If most men in my age group have low testosterone, why should I feel good about being in that range? My Dr. shoots for Optimal Levels (i.e., the levels one had when one was 25-30) and aims for that. Low Testosterone also controls strength of the heart muscles beating (contraction) which can also lead to weakness, lethargy, depression. There are good depression meds out there, too. Also have him check for low thyroid function which also == weak, slow heart rate, lethargy and depression. Topical, bio-identical Testosterone (optimal levels) (inexpensive), natural Thyroid medication (not synthetic pharmaceuticals; also inexpensive), and anti-depressants made a new, years-younger, vital happy man out of me quickly!

Also, check out the The UltraMind Solution book and see if you can get H to take the short, revealing quizzes in the beginning.I did and was amazed. Even more amazed when amino acid blood tests revealed these short quiz answers to be right on the money! Amino acids are over the counter, inexpensive and have worked so well for me my Dr is almost done weaning me off the pharmaveutical meds.

Disclaimer: the above is for information purposes only and is not intended to diagnose, treat, or cure any condition. Consult with your healthcare provider blah, blah, blah...